An Open Letter To Me At 18 Or, Because I Knew You, I Have Been Changed For Good

Dear 18-Year-Old Jaime:

Hey! Me again — your decade-old counterpart filling you in on your future/my present.

A little while back, I wrote to you in regards to your 10-Year High School Reunion.

Right now, you’re probably wondering if you went and what Ron Livingston wore because, y’know, he was totally your date, right?

Yeah, that’s a no on both counts. You actually spent the weekend doing something far more fun.

No, Ron Livingston wasn’t involved.
Seriously. Why would I lie about that?
Look, would you let it go? I have a crush on him too, but you don’t hear me going all bananas about it.
That often.

Anyway, instead of trekking down to El Dub for the reunion, you spend the weekend hanging out with your sister.

You guys navigated Philly without being murdered/mugged, devoured red velvet whoopie pies from Flying Monkey and tequila gelato from Capogiro (this doesn’t mean a damn thing to you now, but trust me — both places are glorious and hands-down, the best desserts in Philadelphia), bought overpriced but fabulous cosmetics, gossiped a whole lot about everyone ever, got your hair done together, ate yourselves into respective food comas and basically, had the best time ever because you guys always have the best time ever.

Look, the point I’m trying to make is this — stop getting stressed out about what people think of you. Especially the people you go to school with. Because in my present/your future — their opinions mean jack with a side of shit. You’re not going to see 95% of them ever again and if you do, you’ll both smile too widely, make airy small talk and then, GTFO as soon as a proper sense of civility allows.

There are a handful of people in this world whose opinions matter. I mean, really matter. And your sister is near the top of that list, so when in doubt, keep this in mind — always pick family over anything else. You’ll be happier for it.

Lots of love:

28-Year-Old Jaime xx

P.S. – Enroll in Bikram yoga, watch True Romance, learn how to make cold-brewed iced coffee and keep writing. Oh and quit hanging out in parking lots. It’s dumb and you don’t particularly enjoy it.

An Open Letter To Fergie, Or For Those In The Cheap Seats – I Hate The Black-Eyed Peas

Dear Fergie (and to a lesser extent, The Black-Eyed Peas)

Four things.

One – It’s 2011. At this point, 2008 is considered two thousand and late.
Two – No-one wants to hear you caterwaul Sweet Child O’ Mine (oh and Slash, I know you got bills to pay, but what the what, dude? Where’s your dignity? You’re Slash! Not some halfwit member of Warrant or Poison).
Three – if I was Dick Dale, I’d be on my way to Dallas with a can full of gas and a handful of matches.
Four – Patrick Swayze is dead. You really need to piss on his legacy with that atrocious cover of (I’ve Had) The Time of My Life?

Please stop destroying music.

Love:
Jaime xx

I Bet in High School, Everybody Made Somebody’s Life Hell, or Ten Years Gone.

Dear 17-Year-Old Jaime:

Hey! It’s me — your decade-older counterpart chiming in for a quick chat.

So, I just got a battery of Facebook messages (It’s like an online yearbook used primarily for social networking stalking people and growing digital crops. You’ll dislike it but find yourself unable to disengage because it makes communication easier and because you’re kinda of a judgmental a-hole) about our 10 Year High School Reunion.

Yeah, you’re that old now.

Dude, please stop making the face. Not only is it wildly unattractive, but I fear something might fly into our eye and cause permanent damage. Our vision isn’t so hot to begin with and I really don’t need you mucking it up further.

Anyway — high school reunion. It’s happening this summer and right now, I’m in two minds whether I want to attend.

So, we’re going to make like Mick and Keef and do a little Point/Counterpoint (references to classic SNL sketches will always be cool. Always). You ready? Here we go:

17 Year Old Jaime: You’re like, 64% less gawky than you were in high school. And 62.5% of that can be attributed to your prodigious flat iron usage.
Present Day Jaime: I would like to rebut with a three-fold answer:

1. 64%? Who taught you math? Low 80s at least. At least.
2. Duh.
3. Who are you trying to impress? The lunkheads you went to school with? Come on, dude. Seriously?

17-Year-Old Jaime: You get to spend quality time in Florida.
Present Day Jaime: I have to book a flight, take time off work, arrange travel to and from the airport and see if I can coordinate this whole venture with Augs’ schedule. This seems like an awful lot of work for a trip that may not result in me spending quality time with my sister or D, Steve and the dogs.

17-Year-Old Jaime: You know you want to see who got fat, who knocked up who and who came out.
Present Day Jaime: ….

So, what conclusion are we deriving from this dialetic exercise? Inconclusive.

Damn it.

Look, I’ll keep you posted on whether I go or not but in the meantime — study hard, stop fixating on the cute guitar player in yearbook  (trust me on this one, dude. Seriously) and listen to Bruce Springsteen.

Lots of Love:

27-Year-Old Jaime xx

An Open Letter To My 17-Year-Old Self, Or I’m Stoked About Baz Luhrmann’s Take on The Great Gatsby

Dear 17-Year-Old Jaime:

Hey! Just your decade-older counterpart dropping you a line from the future with some awesome news.

No, it’s not about hoverboards.
Dude, they haven’t been invented yet.
Yes, I know that I’m only five years away from Back to the Future II.
Just let it go. I mean, you don’t even skateboard.

Anyway, Baz Luhrmann is remaking The Great Gatsby and Leonardo DiCaprio’s playing the eponymous principal character.

Yeah, you should probably stop shrieking like that. It can’t be good for our vocal chords.

Tobey Maguire’s playing Nick, someone named Carey Mulligan’s playing Daisy (she’s English, small, blonde and looks capable of pulling off Daisy’s insouciance) and principal photography starts next year.

That’s pretty much all I know about it, but it’s probably a safe bet that the interpretation will be lush, epic and feature a pretty fantastic soundtrack.

I’ll keep you posted as I find out more.

Study more, keep writing and listen to shitloads of Bruce Springsteen.

Lots of love:

Me xx

P.S. — Wear that pair of black-and-red plaid pants more often. They’re super cute, comfy and they make your butt look muy fantastico. People in the future wear jeggings (jeans + leggings = justifiable homicide) and they need to get back on the tartan train.

An Open Letter To Me At 17 Or, Twilight Sucks. Come On, Guys. Admit It.

Hey there 17-Year-Old Me!

So, you’re probably wondering why your decade older self is getting in touch with you and as per usual, it’s to crack an egg of knowledge.

You’re a writer and take great pride in this fact. I know you want to write something meaningful, important and clever, but dude — take a hit for the team and write a novel about an idiot girl who falls in love with an overbearing, borderline abusive, sparkly vampire.

Yes, sparkly.
Seriously.
No, I’m not fucking with you. He sparkles in sunlight.
Yes, I know sunlight turns vampires to dust. What, you think because a girl is ten years older, she’ll stop watching Buffy marathons on Logo?

Every instinct and writing teacher will tell you that bland writing and cliches are to be avoided like the plague (ah ha — you see what I did there?) but these instincts are wrong and your teachers are wrong (Sorry, Kay and Oliga).

Make it bad. Hell, make it boring. Oh and moralize, moralize, moralize. Every chance you get.

Look, I know this sounds ridiculous but trust me — you will make a metric shit ton of money.

Self respect? That’s for suckers and poor people.

Think it over, kid.

Lots of love:

27-Year-Old Me

P.S. — Flat iron + volumizing spray + anti-frizz serum. Meet your new holy trinity. Now, get to worshipping.

An Open Letter To Soon-To-Be-27 Me

Dear Soon-To-Be-27-Jaime:

Don’t panic.

Yes, I’m referencing The Hitchhiker’s Guide To The Galaxy (which you still have to read, by the way), but it’s also pretty solid advice.

I know impending adulthood has gotten you wound up, but it’s OK. You’re tougher than you think you are (despite your penchant to break into sniffles) and when things get really bad, remember – you can always reach out to the people you love, good coffee is never really all that far away and India Garden probably delivers. When they’re open, anyway (about that: dub? I mean, come on — a girl needs her mutter paneer).

If that doesn’t help and things get really dire, you always have a key to Mom’s. Palm Beach and Philly really aren’t that far away.

First rule of turning 27? Don’t join the 27 Club. Yes, the members are cool and open mic night probably kicks ass, but you know what will always be better than living fast, dying young and leaving a good-looking corpse? Pretty much everything ever.

Comparatively, everything else is a cake walk.

I know you’ve been feeling mired lately but remember — life is a fan of the curveball. Seriously. Ten years ago, if someone would have told you that you would move to Pennsylvania to live with the Internet Boy, would you ever have believed them? Life is not static and you’ll emerge from the ass groove yet.

Some things to keep in mind for the upcoming year:

- You know that thing you kinda want to do? You should do it. Buy the ticket, take the ride.
- Write. Write, write, write, write, write. And when you do, do it for the reasons Bukowski said.
- Skype dates. Let’s make those happen. You don’t get to see the people you love nearly enough.
- Bring back the TV recaps. And start by finishing My So-Called Life.
- Spend more time with your co-workers outside of work. Happy Hours = good times. Especially Happy Hours with burger deals.

Like I said last year, you are a lucky bastard. Just keep doing what you’re doing and really take the time to appreciate the little things. You’ll be happier for it.

Have a wonderful day on the 11th! Happy Birthday!

Love:

Me xx

P.S. — Dude, you should buy a cast-iron skillet and use it to make migas. Mmmmigas.

An Open Letter To My Mom

Samrat Gujarati Thali Churchgate, Mumbai. Originally uploaded by saanchalli

Dear Mom:

Please come to Pennsylvania and feed your kid.

She’s hungry, totally crap at making Indian food and unwilling to shell out $20 for a meal that will ultimately prove to be unsatisfying.

I love and miss you lots!

Jemmy xx

What did my brother do today? He stood up and fought for his country. And what did I do? I made a papier maché lobster head.

Last night, I had a bit of a quarter-life crisis/meltdown that resulted in sniffling, raccoon-eyes resulting from non waterproof mascara (Life Lesson #458: Always pick waterproof mascara. Always) and essentially, being a grouchy little madam.

In a few months, I’m going to be 27 which is closer to legitimate adulthood than I care to admit and when I look at what my peers have accomplished so far (thank you, Facebook….you bastard), it makes me a little shaky.

They have weddings, cute homes and cuter babies. They dress like adults, travel across the country and world and have jobs they actually really love.

And we’ve got….a shitload of movies and books.

Luckily, I have a sweet man in my life who gives me hugs, lets me bury my head into the crook of his neck while blubbering and then, sits down and talks with me until my world is rational again.

An Open Letter To The Grouchy Little Madam Who Spent Last Night Blubbing:

Dear Jaime:

Firstly, you need to invest in some waterproof mascara. ‘Cause seriously, that shit ain’t cute.

That being said, have you turned on a television in the past few days? Do you have any idea what the rest of the world is going through? Has been going through?

Are you seriously complaining about the fact that you can’t afford a wedding or the fact that you don’t get to travel? Because in the grand scheme of things, that is so unimportant, it’s not even remotely amusing.

Want to hear something messed up? Water covers 71% of the Earth’s surface and yet, nearly one billion (that’s Carl Sagan with a B Billion) lack access to safe water. That, my darling girl, is messed up.

It’s messed up that people are being evicted from their homes. It’s messed up that the term ‘war rape’ even exists. It’s messed up that tonight, a little kid will go to bed with a gnawing hunger in his stomach.

So, how’s about you quit bitching and realize that you’ve got so much more than most people do. Seriously. Quit being such a wank.

Lots of love:

Jaime Plus Sorely Needed Perspective Minus Wankery.

And speaking of wankery, I almost cried at work today.

Why?

Because I spent ten minutes on the phone with the world’s meanest neurosurgeon. Dr. Dickbag belittled my station in life, actually compared my department to the Gestapo (guess he was a Glenn Beck fan) and told me that if he didn’t get what he wanted, I would, “have a big problem.”

Needless to say, he was a huge asshole and I hope he gets chronic hemorrhoids.

I came home, I put on sweats and made a kickass dinner:

Rotini with peas, asiago and roasted tomatoes.

Boil pasta. Drain. Set aside.
Chop up a bunch of cherry tomatoes.
Mix with garlic, onions, salt, pepper and extra virgin olive oil.
Roast at 400ºF for 40 minutes.
Remove from oven, drizzle with balsamic vinegar and smash with fork.
Mix pasta with tomatoes.
Sprinkle cheese.
Eat and realize that despite it all, good things do exist in this world.

And while I ate, I watched Bruce Springsteen rock the masses at Madison Square Garden.

Like that, a lousy day turned into an OK one.

I still hope Dr. Dickbag gets piles, though.

An Open Letter To The Chex Corporation

To whom it may concern at Chex Cereal:

I would like to offer my services as food taster/spokesperson for your company as I am deeply in love with your product.

I’m not a big fan of cereal but yours is fantastic. It’s not overtly sweet, it doesn’t turn the mix a radioactive hue and best of all, it stays crunchy in milk.

Kudos, Chex Cereal. Kudos.

I’m also an avid fan of Chex Mix and have been known to consume outrageous quantities that may possibly kill a lesser individual (or an individual who happens to be watching his sodium intake).

The holiday snack that I most likely would not share.

This past Christmas, a friend introduced me to Muddy Buddies (also known as Puppy Chow, Monkey Munch, Crack, Chewbacca Chew….) and it was a life-changing experience. I don’t even like the combination of chocolate and peanut butter, but I could have eaten Muddy Buddies all day long. In fact, I think I did while re-watching Lost on DVD.

Today, my co-worker came out of one of the offices munching on something. I asked her what it was and she said, “It’s delicious! It’s Chex with crap on it!”

I grabbed a small handful and almost passed out on my way back to my desk. Chex with crap on it might just prove the existence of a benevolent God.

To reiterate, I would like to offer my services as a spokesperson for your product and all Chex-affiliated products. Although I have a tendency towards blasphemy when it comes to Chex-affliated products (IE: “Sweet Jesus Christ! This is goddamn glorious!”), I’ll try to keep the language G-rated. Especially if you pay me in Chex Mix and Chex with crap on it.

Please consider my proposal.

Thanks!

Jaime

An open letter to 2010

Hello 2010!

I can’t wait to meet you! Your buddy 2009 was pretty cool and we had some good times together, but I’m ready to say goodbye and move on to brighter and better things (don’t tell 2009 I said that. It’ll just give him a complex).

The prospect of meeting you fills me with optimism. Way more than I’ve felt in years past, actually, so that being said, here is a list of Things I’d Like To Accomplish During Our Time Together:

- Travel to more places than just New Jersey, Delaware and Florida. Don’t get me wrong — I dig these places, but it’s a big world and I want to see more of it.
- Spend more time with my sister. She’s my favorite person ever and I seriously miss the hell out of her when she’s not around.
- Read more and actually maintain my GoodReads account.
- Set up a Real World/Road Rules Challenge Fantasy League. I’m not even going to lie — I love that show and think it would be awesome to play in a fantasy league where you get points when someone gets punched, wins a mission or hooks up with their skeezy castmate. Who’s in? Come on — you know Johnny Bananas will rack up some seriously high scores.
- Eat better and cook more. Real food as opposed to processed junk. In addition to eating healthier, I also want to expand my culinary horizons. 2010 is the year I try Morbier cheese. Yes, it smells and sounds like death but what’s life without a little culinary adventure? And on that note….
- Try Animal Style Fries from In-N-Out Burger. I know. I know. Totally kills that whole healthy thing, but everything in moderation, right? Of course, In-N-Out is a West Coast thing so that leads me to my next goal…
- Visit Los Angeles. Well, actually the goal is to move to Los Angeles, but if all I get is a visit — I’ll take it.
- Finish the story I’m writing and work on publishing it.
- Write at least one screenplay with Dan.
- Discover new music. My sister introduced me to Mermaid Avenue — covers of Woody Guthrie songs performed by Wilco and Billy Bragg — and now, I am in love. So much so that I want to play California Stars at my wedding.
- Get a tattoo. OK, so this one has a pretty huge chance of not happening due to my crippling fear of needles, but if I don’t actually get a tattoo — I would like to at least decide what kind of tattoo I want and where it’ll be permanently inked on my body.
- Develop some semblance of aestheticism when it comes to home decor. ‘Cause right now, I’m batting .0000.
- Update my wardrobe so I look less like a high school student and more like a responsible adult.
- Determine some semblance of what I want to do with my life. I want to start writing in a much more professional capacity — blogs other than my own and maybe a little freelancing.
- Blog more and try to be more honest. I’m not gonna lie — the thought of this is mortifying. I mean, having that information out there for anyone to read? Makes me feel all sorts of vulnerable and naked. BUT, I think it’ll help me to be a better, stronger writer.

So, yeah. That’s it.

Anyway, it’s a pleasure to meet you and in the words of The White Stripes, I know we are going to be friends.

Lots of love:

Jaime xo